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Knowing What You DON’T Want Is A Great Starting Point to Getting What You Want

When things are not as good as you’d like, the first thing to do is get clear about what you don’t like…

Let me explain.

As a Clinical Hypnotherapist, one of the most important lessons I help my clients learn is to focus on what they want. I think that should be clear by now!!!

The best way to do that is be clear about the things you don’t want in your life and business, so sit down NOW and create a list of everything you don’t want. You heard me, do it, now.

Once you’ve completed that list, look at each item on the list and decide if this is what I DON’T want, then what is it I DO want? Take your time and really get into it for each item on your list.

So how does this work?

We did this in the previous home we lived in and in the process, created the shopping list for the home we are living in now. And that home found US when we weren’t even looking for it.

But that’s a story for another day…

If you’d like some help getting clear about what what you don’t want and want, post a comment on the blog, I’d love to hear from you. You can also call my office to schedule an appointment!

Until next time, all the best from my family to you and yours!

Doug

In the previous post we talked about the incredible power of your subconscious mind, aka Automatic Success Attractor, to show you where you are putting your attention. Remember “you find what you’re looking for” and “what you focus on expands”.

I’m sure some of you are feeling frustrated over the economic challenges the world is facing at the moment. You may be experiencing some of the effects firsthand.

Maybe you have experienced loss of income or business. You’re not alone. Many businesses are have lost customers due to the slowing economy. Maybe you feel spooked and are unsure of what is going to happen and you might even be thinking, “what the &^*^% Doug! Are you saying I caused this? Are you saying I brought this on by my thoughts? Go pound sand dude!!”

No that’s not what I’m saying.

I am saying that now is the time to decide what you are made of!!! What are you going to focus on RIGHT NOW? Will you choose to whine about how unfair things are and thereby choose by default to be a victim or will you instead choose to be a victor and focus on what you want???!!!

Become Responsible

The “cold hard truth” is that you have no control over the outside world, and yet you do have complete and total control over your own thoughts and actions, therefore you have complete and total control over how you choose to react and responds to outside events.

Let me say that again: You are NOT responsible for external events in the world and the things that “happen” to you, you are however responsible for how you respond. Only you can decide to not take what is going on in the world personally and instead to refocus your energy on the fact that you now choose to be 100% responsible for the results you get in life based on 2 simple things: what you choose to focus on coupled with the actions you take.

Remember, taking an action gets you closer to where you want to be! Of course, not everything you do will work out just the way you want it to, just remember that on an average trip, an airliner is off course most of the time.

The pilot must use the feedback coming in from the instruments to get the plane back on course. That feedback about being off course can be looked as being very helpful and good information to have, -or-, it can be looked at a “failure” or “mistakes” – it depends on what you choose to focus on.

Knowing what doesn’t work is just as important as knowing what does!!!

You must decide right now that you’re ok with knowing another way that doesn’t get you  the result you were looking for! Decide right now to be open minded about new ways to live your life, new ways to do business, and if need be, new ways to reinvent yourself!

In the long run, tough times will force you to do things you know you should have done a long time ago but were just too “fat, dumb and happy” to bother with. (As the saying goes of course)

Perhaps you’re saying “But Doug, this sucks. I don’t like it.” Friend, you don’t have to like it, you just have to deal with it! What goes up will come down. It’s not personal; it’s just the way it is. You can’t argue or fool mother nature! Yet there is something you CAN do about it….

Stay tuned for part three coming in a day or two.

Until then, all the best to you and yours

Doug

You Find What You’re Looking For

Have you ever heard the sayings “you will find what you’re looking for” or “you will eventually receive what you think about most?”

You know what I mean.  It’s like before you bought a new car, you never noticed that vehicle, yet the day after you bought it, that model seems to be everywhere?

The same thing holds true for your personal health, wealth and happiness. When you focus on the sickness, you’ll get more sickness. When you focus on the doom and gloom that the media is pushing, then that is what you will find everywhere you look.  If you focus on being miserable, you’ll become that person walking around with the cloud over their head.

Instead, why not choose to focus on what you really want?

Choose to focus your mental energy on the health, happiness and prosperity you want and you’ll see opportunities everywhere!

Just determine what you want, set a course and then take action! When you focus on what you want, and where you’re going like a laser, you will reach your goals faster because of the concentrated energy you send toward those goals.

Listen. Your future is NOT a matter of random occurrence, unless of course you decide to leave it up to chance by doing nothing. You are responsible for creating your future by the choices you make and what you choose to focus on and the actions you take TODAY.

What You Focus On Expands

There is a universal law, (like gravity), it says that “what you focus on expands.” Seems simple enough, yet, judging by the results (or lack of) some people get, they never learned this powerful truth.

Most people simply allow the outside world to determine their inside attitudes! They look around; listen to what the pundits and talking heads tell them and simply accept as true whatever they’re spoon fed over and over and over.

The reverse then becomes true, because if you find what you’re looking for and if what you focus on expands, your outside world becomes a mirror for those exact same thoughts and feelings you are experiencing inside.

Pay close attention to what I’m about to say: You have NO control over external events, however you do have complete and total control over what you choose to focus on.

Simply by changing how you think and what you think about, you can change your entire world. You can change your physical and mental state using just the incredible power of your mind!

So what are you choosing to focus on? Just look at what is showing up in your life and you’ll find out! Don’t like what’s showing up? Then snap out of the trance you have been walking around in, become aware of how you are creating your “reality”, accept that your life is now the way it is because you created it that way, and start focusing right now on what you want, and where you want to go.

Because you’re reading this, it’s probably a safe bet that you want great health, happiness and prosperity in your life, so focus on those things! Learn to focus on what you WANT, not on what you don’t want or whatever outside conditions may exist right now.

Be sure to check out the next post to see how to apply this to what’s happening these days in the economy and all around the world.

So the trip to look at the property went great, we even took the Sellers up for a spin around their area and over their private home, they loved it!!!

The best part for me was the ability to get into our own plane, and to come and go on our schedule. And no cattle chutes and security lines!!! Yoo Hoo!!!

Here’s how the landing went:

I am in Tampa today and tomorrow morning…and I’m surrounded by some incredibly talented speakers and trainers! The energy level is amazing and the spirit of sharing is alive and well!!!

The best thing you can do for yourself is to make sure you align yourself with a group of like minded individuals, surround yourself with them and GET ACTIVE!!!

Take action today, find your allies, make something happen and remember to be humble….check your ego and that part of you that says “I know that” at the door

Today I met a man who is in a business that I’ve been in for the last 15 years…(Mobile Home Parks)…he’s just been at it a LOT longer than I have.  While he runs his business ALOT differently than I do, what he does accomplishes several things:

1. It works for his local market conditions

2. It serves his needs because he BUILT it to serve his needs!

Rather than dismiss what he’s doing as “wrong”, I chose to learn how to look at different possibilities and why he’s doing what he’s doing. As a result, I got to see how a successful business adapts to survive and thrive!

Whenever you catch yourself thinking or saying, “well that’s not how I do things”, stop!

You may just be wasting a great opportunity to learn something.

For me it’s “stuff”.

Some stuff can be distracting. As I look around my office I see that I have many things that have the ability to distract me. Lot’s of books, notebooks, do-dads and gadgets. Great ideas that started yet another unfinished project and causing an open loop that must be closed to free up the energy waiting to finish it to work on something else.

Another thing that can be very distracting is technology. For example, this blog. It uses some great software called WordPress. There’s another piece of software called a plugin that i want to use to post my blog posts on my Facebook page. But it needs PHP 5 and my hosting package defaults to PHP4 and there is work to be done tell it to use PHP5. Work I have no desire to learn how to do and work I must wait on others to do for me.

I find that distracting!

Where do you draw the line between the things you keep around to inspire and motivate you, and things that may distract you?

What’s your solution?